How to Stop Conflict, and Communicate better with your partner couples Online Course

more than 100 video classes to improve your RELATIONSHIP.   

presented by

dr. todd & mrs.  Pemberton todd

creators of  couples fight school
relationship and conflict management experts

mr and mrs Todd

You can communicate better with your partner. You can resolve the conflicts. You and your partner just need new skills.

We have drawn from over 20 years of being counselors and conflict resolution experts and most of all our work with hundreds of couples to give you the skills you need to bring the love back to your relationship.

You can communicate better with your partner. You can resolve the conflicts. You and your partner just need new skills.

There is.

Let me ask you some simple questions: Do you want the fighting in your relationship to stop? Do you want to stop looking at pictures from the early part of your relationship and wonder what happened? Do you want to be connected again?

Research is very clear about what it takes to love again. You need skills. Simple but important skills.

Dear friend, welcome to the Fight Less, Love More video series for couples who want the pain to stop and want to be connected again.


But before I tell you about those skills, I want to tell you a story.

Our marriage was in trouble. We had focused on career, kids, education, saving money, and all those things newly married couples focus on. At some point, we started to neglect each other. We were living like roommates ten years into marriage, and we could not seem to connect.

We would have conflicts that would last for weeks. We would sleep in separate spaces and only interact to carry out the business of running the household. It was a miserable existence. The other surprise was that we were mental health counselors and should have known better, but for a long time we did not see couples in our practice so we did not encounter troubled relationships directly. Oddly enough, when our relationship was getting worse, we started seeing couples, but that in some ways was a good thing, because we were now confronted with the idea of making change ourselves. This prompted us to do more research on how couples can really connect and stop fighting. We then began to apply the research techniques to our own marriage and teach them in our practice.

We decided to go on a journey to reconnect. We worked hard to understand each other, put each other first, and be invested in each other’s growth. Over time, connection came back to our marriage. We watched in amazement as the nature of our conflict changed. We still had disagreements, but we fought differently. There was no need to force our opinions on each other, no strong need to resolve everything NOW. There was more “I’m sorry,” more interest in the needs of others. We felt at peace even in disagreement.

As we grew more connected, we became convinced that our clients had to enjoy what we now enjoy. We began to teach our clients the simple skills necessary to have a connected relationship, to fight less and love again.

We Learned

  • To hold hands again
  • To listen again
  • To be affectionate again with no expectation of sex
  • To forgive again
  • To value someone we know good and bad about again
  • To feel free again
  • To relax again

We were amazed at the results. Simple changes to the way you communicate with your partner can bring huge dividends. A kiss in the morning, choosing to notice the positive, showing interest in your partner as a person, being excited to be in his or her life: we have watched hundreds of individuals introduce these strategies to have a happier, more connected relationship

Video Message From Dr Carlos and Natasha Todd

"You Can Be Connected Again"

We are offering the same opportunity to you

Now is the time to take the next step. You still love your partner but are frustrated with the fighting, and with being disconnected.We will give you the skills to walk into a more peaceful, connected relationship.

It is possible to fight less and love again, but trying the same old tactic that has not worked will only lead to more frustration. The feeling of loneliness in marriage is gut-wrenching: you in one room, him in another, pretending you have a great relationship, but you know the truth. You want more but have no idea how to get there.
The answer is to learn new skills.

Staying for the kids is noble, but there is something worse than divorce: commitment without connection.

We are offering you an opportunity to have both commitment and connection.

In our video, we walk you step by step, day by day, through figuring out how to STOP the fighting and get connected again. We teach you what the research says but also what we as a couple have done and shared with hundreds of couples to restore their relationships.  

Here are some testimonials from others who have worked with us, attended our live events, or listened to our broadcast at Couples Fight School on Facebook. 

Client Testimonials

My relationship with my husband has evolved so much since I've been listening to Dr. Todd’s Facebook segments. I have learned to listen more to my husband as I often dominate the marriage. It used to be my way, and I used to malice my husband for days/weeks if I didn’t get my way.

The most significant takeaway is that I realized how broken I was; it’s based on my childhood and what I was exposed to, growing up with my West Indian parents.

Therapy is not for everyone. But if you can admit to yourself that you are not happy with yourself or with your partner, consulting or listening to Dr. Todd is worth a try. He is transparent and very astute on relationship conflicts. I’ve been in therapy for about a year now, and it’s way different from the way Dr. Todd presents it. I used to blame myself for a lot of conflicts in my marriage. But after participating in his workshops I quickly realized we both have lots of unresolved issues. I can now instantly identify my faults and my spouse’s demise during a conflict. My marriage is now stronger and healthier.

Dion

Just jumped the on the “Couples Fight School” train and have been already gaining wonderful insight on how to “fight” for my marriage the right way! So far, I’ve already seen multiple videos of various marriage topics in their archive and watched two of their broadcasts live and *already* have learned some valuable insights! The couple is super-friendly, encouraging, humorous, always open for questions/comments, and I love their fresh perspectives and approach to handling marriage conflicts/issues. The effort they put into setting aside time to talk to the community each week is greatly appreciated! It’s pretty fun! I hope soon I can see them in person and sign up for a Couples Fight School event! Thanks a bunch!!

Ellen


I have gotten some excellent advice and words of counsel from Dr. Todd and Mrs. Todd. It has been a great experience so far. Definitely looking forward to learning more.

Ellen

Being able to connect with Couples Fight School’s live discussions is so refreshing. Professional and genuine advice on hard topics in relationships definitely helps put things in perspective.

Sandra

Whether the topic affects me indirectly or directly, I appreciate the exchange of knowledge and thoughts. Thank you for sharing the knowledge and time.

June

I love the advice given on here. It’s not one-sided and can help both genders. The tools given here are meant to help save relationships, and they do help you find clarity.

Tatiana

​My husband and I have been in a relationship/marriage together for over fifteen years and I get insight on what’s healthy, boundaries, and having a fight plan. This page is a Godsend for couples wanting to continue working on and tweaking your relationship with your other half.
Rick

Excellent advice. I’ve gotten so much from listening to your live feed. Looking forward to seeing you both in person at a workshop. Highly recommended!

June

Dr. Todd focuses his clinical work on anger and conflict in its varied forms. As a childhood survivor of domestic violence he has the personal experience of dealing with an unsafe, unstable home and the journey of through that pain into a happy, productive life as a husband, father, and clinician. It is this passion for self-improvement, the drive to understand conflict and the heart for helping couples find love through conflict that infuses his work.

Dr. Todd focuses his clinical work on anger and conflict in its varied forms. As a childhood survivor of domestic violence he has the personal experience of dealing with an unsafe, unstable home and the journey of through that pain into a happy, productive life as a husband, father, and clinician. It is this passion for self-improvement, the drive to understand conflict and the heart for helping couples find love through conflict that infuses his work.

Natasha is a powerhouse who stands on her own. She too grew up in a home where her guardians where emotionally unavailable. The pain and loneliness of this childhood lead her on her own personal journey to be the wife, mother and professional she is today. Today, Mrs. Todd works to help women and children overcome trauma. Both Mrs. Todd and Dr. Todd are transparent about their own pain and journey of recovery. They consider themselves fellow travelers on the road to being better humans. Working together Natasha and Dr. Todd provide, individuals & couples the skills to reduce internal and external conflicts with the goal of creating men and women who live their true calling, and more connected and productive relationships.

The key to fighting Less and Loving More is to learn new skills.

Staying for the kids is noble, but there is something worse than divorce: commitment without connection. We are offering you an opportunity to have both commitment and connection.In 10 days, you can learn skills that will restore your relationship with further skills that have been scientifically proven to reconnect couples. This is the perfect opportunity for couples who may not have been able to go to counseling to have a personal counselor for 10 days.In our video, we walk you step by step, day by day, through figuring out how to STOP the fighting and get connected again. We teach you what the research says but also what we as a couple have done and shared with hundreds of couples to restore their relationships. Here are some testimonials from others who have worked with us, attended our live events, or listened to our broadcast at Couples Fight School on Facebook.

Love is possible again. The fighting can stop but you need SKILLS. You will not transform your relationship by doing what you have always done.

We have done all the work for you. We have taken two decades of counseling experience and the latest research and condensed it into 10 seven-minute videos you and your partner can watch and discuss to get that connection you always wanted.

Here is a sample list of the  more than 100 video in our subscription program. 

  1. The Most Important Question you Could Ask Your Spouse
  2. Two Tools to Stop Conflict in Its Tracks
  3. The Connection Between Praise and Relationship
  4. Healing Emotional Pain in Men
  5. Why Can't Couples Stop the Fight
  6. The Real Reason Couples Fight
  7. Why Couples Love to Hate Each Other
  8. Why Partners Cheat
  9. Alone Together: Finding Love
  10. Dirty Fights
  11. Depression: The Hidden Relationship Killer
  12. Restoring Intimacy After a Fight
  13. Dealing with Post-Infidelity Conflict
  14. Couples' Fight School: Hartford, Connecticut (4 teaching videos; 3 testimonials)
  15. How to Deal with An Angry Partner
  16. Loving a Trauma Survivor: Understanding Trauma's Impact on Your Relationships
  17. What is Digital Infidelity and How to Deal with It
  18. Relationship Conflict, Sex and Infertility
  19. How to Disagree and Still be in Love
  20. In-law Conflicts: What are they? And how can they be fixed
  21. Restoring Intimacy When My Body Changes
  22. How Does a Couple Know they Need Counseling
  23. How to get a Resistant Partner to Go to Counseling
  24. How to Deal with Blended Family Conflict
  25. How to Stop Resentment from Ruining Your Relationship
  26. How to Help Kids Prepare for Separation and Divorce
  27. How to Start Good Fights and End Bad Fights
  28. Relationship Advice for the Almost Married
  29. The Dos and Don'ts of abCommitted Relationship
  30. Love Skills: How to Say "Sorry," and Encourage your Partner
  31. Love is a Skill: Let Me Tell You Why
  32. How to Demonstrate to Your Partner that You are Really, Really Interested in Them
  33. How to be Vulnerable In Your Relationship
  34. How Introverts and Extroverts can Find and Keep Love
  35. How to Deal With Feelings of Abandonment
  36. How Wrong Thinking Can Create the Wrong Relationship
  37. How Fear Can Ruin Your Relationship
  38. The Forgiveness Principle: How Forgiveness Can Improve Your Relationship
  39. How to Really Spend Time with Your Partner
  40. How to Make Up After Conflicts that last for Days
  41. How Culture Impacts Your Relationship
  42. Why Some Women Love Bad Boys and Emotionally Unavailable Men
  43. Dealing with Parenting Conflicts
  44. Why Couples Counseling Doea not Work and Why Couples find it so Hard to Make Changes in their Relationship
  45. How to Build Trust in your Relationship
  46. Are You Dealing with an Angry or Abusive Partner
  47. The One Thing that is Threatening Relationships the Most
  48. Why Some Conflicts Go Very Wrong Very Fast
  49. How the Run-Chase Cycle Can Destroy Your Relationship
  50. What to do to Recover After A Breakup or Bad Marriage

By the way, you will own these videos forever, so you can go over them again and again.

Why fighting fair is important and how to fight fair to save your relationship
Make peace with the hurts of the past
See your partner’s faults as an opportunity
Forgiveness is a skill. Here is how to forgive
Stop trying to resolve everything in your relationship. Conflict resolution has nothing to do with trying to solve problems.

The time to reconnect with your partner is now. This opportunity is one that couples have paid thousands of dollars and spent months in therapy for. Its yours for

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Coaching Program with Carlos Todd, PhD and Natasha Pemberton-Todd, MA

Relationship Renewal Starter Program $ 1500               Three payments of $525               

Program Content

  • Relationship Health Computer Based Assessment 
  • Exclusive private interaction with Dr. Carlos Todd and Mrs. Todd at our office or online via secure video.
  • Copies of my two books Fight Plan and Individual Answers for anger Management 

Time commitment

  • One day (6 hours) or over 6 one hour sessions  

What we do

  • Meet with couple to focus ONLY on your relationship. No children, no work, no electronic devices. Just the two of you.
  • Review the results of the assessment and the implications for your relationship.
  • Explore the top three conflicts that reoccur in the relationship
  • Engaging in actual practice scenarios to help couple engage prepare for real world situations
  • Handout and learning aids to help reinforce relationship recovery strategies.


Expected Outcome

  • A detailed 10 page relationship report
  • Clarify the true dynamic of the relationship
  • A written plan to resolve each of the three conflicts discusses
  • A report on the prognosis of the relationship

Follow-up

  • 3 Follow-up email/phone calls for 30 minutes up to 1 month after the first contact.

 

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