The F.I.G.H.T. Plan®: Books, Courses, and Training for Healthier Conflicts, Less destructive fights and Deeper Connection.
Most couples argue, repeat patterns, and feel emotionally stuck — even when they care deeply about each other.
The hardest part is that you care deeply about each other — but you’re exhausted by the same fights, over and over. This is where couples counseling helps. This skills-based approach shows you what’s actually happening during conflict and gives you tools to change it, whether you’re working online or in person.
What if the problem isn't the fights...
but how you're fighting?
When conflict keeps repeating, it’s rarely about the topic itself. Most couples fall into the same reactions without realizing it — raising voices, shutting down, or trying to “win” instead of understand. Over time, this turns normal disagreements into constant fighting that leaves both of you feeling unheard and emotionally drained. Couples counseling helps you slow these moments down, recognize what’s actually happening beneath the surface, and respond in ways that create clarity instead of escalation.
We're not here to fix you.
We're here to arm you.
You don’t need to be corrected, analyzed, or told who’s right and who’s wrong. What most couples are missing are practical skills they can use when emotions spike. This approach to couples counseling focuses on awareness, timing, and communication — so you can recognize what’s happening in the moment and respond differently, instead of repeating the same patterns.
Start where you are.
Choose the path that feels right for your relationship today.
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Understand why the same arguments keep repeating
Discover your conflict patterns and get personalized couples counseling insights in just 5 minutes
Start QuizGet the F.I.G.H.T. Plan Workbook
A practical guide to stop fights before they spiral.
Learn how to stop fighting as a couple with clear steps you can use in real conversations
Get the WorkbookBook 1:1 Coaching
Personalized support for navigating difficult relationship challenges
If ongoing conflict has led to emotional disconnect or trust issues, 1:1 coaching helps you move forward with clarity and confidence
Book Coaching SessionWe're not just therapists. We're real people who've seen how fast things can unravel — and how fast things can heal with the right help.
This work is not positioned as traditional couples therapy, relationship counseling, or marriage counseling. And while many couples explore online couples counseling, this approach is different. Instead of focusing on endless discussion, it’s a structured, skills-based system that helps you understand what’s happening during conflict and respond with intention — even when emotions are high.
Practical tools you can use in real conversations
Every technique is grounded in proven conflict resolution principles and shaped by real-life experience with couples.
Start today — no therapy appointment needed
You don’t have to wait weeks for an appointment. You can start learning skills that support healthier communication right away.
Created by conflict resolution experts who get it
Built by Dr. and Mrs. Todd, who understand how quickly conflict can spiral - and how small changes can help strengthen relationship patterns over time.
The F.I.G.H.T. Plan Workbook
Used by thousands of couples, this workbook helps you decode your fights and reconnect — without needing a PhD in psychology.
- Identify your unique conflict patterns in under 10 minutes
- Step-by-step couples counseling exercises
- Learn the 5-step F.I.G.H.T. framework that actually works
- Practice with real scenarios and conversation scripts
- Track your progress with built-in reflection exercises
- Conflict resolution strategies you can actually use
Sometimes, you need someone in your corner.
If you’ve tried talking things out or working through tools on your own and still feel stuck, you don’t have to figure it out alone. Personalized support can help you apply what you’re learning to your real-life situations and move forward with more clarity and confidence.
Personalized Guidance
Every relationship is different. Get support tailored to your specific patterns, challenges, and goals.
Judgment-Free Zone
Our certified couples counseling coaches create a safe space where both partners can be heard, understood, and supported.
Proven Results
See meaningful progress in your communication and connection within weeks — not months.
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Book a consultation to see if 1:1 coaching is the right next step for your relationship.
Explore Coaching OptionsReal couples, real transformations
See how couples have used our online couples counseling and courses to strengthen communication and heal together.
"We went from walking on eggshells to actually talking again. Best decision we made as a couple."
"I was skeptical about doing this without a therapist, but the F.I.G.H.T. Plan gave us tools we could use immediately. We're actually fighting less and connecting more."
"The coaching sessions helped us break patterns we didn't even realize we had. For the first time in years, we feel like we're on the same team."
Wherever you are — overwhelmed, hopeful, unsure — you're not alone.
Our couples counseling courses, programs, and coaching give you practical tools to reduce conflict, feel safer in your relationship, and reconnect with confidence.