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Conflict can be both bad and good. This article focuses on the positive value of conflict in relationships. Conflict reminds us of our individual identities. Each of us has a voice, a set of core beliefs, and a mode of expressing those beliefs that form our core selves—our identities. This voice is a combination of […]

Stuart: Hi there! And welcome to the couples expert podcast. This is Stuart Fensterheim, the couples’ expert. And my community of listeners, welcome back to the place to learn about relationship. This is the place to learn about what to do in a relationship and more importantly what not to do in a relationship. I

Accept Conflict Let’s admit it. If there are two or more individuals in the same space during the holiday season conflict is almost inevitable. People will disagree. One will disagree about who does the driving, how your partner drives, where to go for the holidays, how much money to spend on gifts and the list

  “When I fight with you, I’m really fighting for us. If I didn’t care, I wouldn’t bother.” -Carson Kolhoff The word “conflict” has a bad reputation. If you hear that two people in a relationship are always disagreeing (the core of conflict), you might jump to the conclusion they have a poor partnership. In

How to Fight Less and Love More in 4 Steps Love isn’t always easy. Even the strongest of relationships fall victim to fighting. Luckily, there are proven steps you can take to reduce fighting and increase love.  Introspection prevents outbursts Anger is easy to misdirect. When we’re upset, and want to let those emotions out,

Your most recent relationship just ended. While you’re upset, you’re not very surprised. Honestly, you could tell from the beginning that it was going to fail. Does this sound familiar? Do you believe that attachments lead to expectations and expectations lead to disappointment? When you start to feel too close in a relationship, do you

There are countless characteristics you love about your partner. Otherwise, you wouldn’t be with them. But let’s face it -they aren’t perfect. Nobody is. Sometimes the way they act is frustrating and other times the very traits that attracted you to your partner in the first place start to drive you crazy. You don’t want

As the glow of the holidays begins to fade, people in struggling marriages begin to lose their strength to combat marital problems. Divorce begins to look like the best solution. In January, divorce inquiries increase and filings begin to spike. If you’re not careful, your marriage could fall victim to the dreaded “January Curse.” Luckily,